Hey there! It’s Barb Churchill, your Fill Your Cup Coach and it’s the week before Christmas and I gotta tell ya, I’m happy to take a break with you.
My typical holidays used to be filled with stress about shopping, baking, entertaining, wrapping, working, going to all the kids stuff…
I didn’t enjoy it – I usually collapsed into Christmas.
It was all self-induced.
Since then, I’ve learned that it all gets done eventually, if something was forgotten – no one noticed. And I’m in charge of my holiday experience.
Whether you celebrate, Hanukah, Kwanza, or Christmas – you can get lost in all the hustle bustle.
So, I’m having a cup of my fav tea in one of my fav cups and wanted to share some thoughts with you about how you can really be present and enjoy your holiday this year.
1. Give up your story. We can create stories in our minds about how we want certain situations to happen and when they don’t go according to our plan, we freak out. It’s not about the change, it’s about what we make the change mean – we put a story to it that makes us feel bad. This year, I invite you to release your grip on your “plan” and watch what unfolds. Allowing yourself to flow will be a beautiful gift for everyone. And very often, the real story is even better than what we had in mind.
2. Plan your gatherings. While we would all like to think that spending hours and hours with family is easy and fun, the reality is, sometimes it’s not all that. Buttons get pushed. Boundaries get crossed. It takes really knowing and acknowledging the kind of relationships you have and how long you feel comfortable being with your family. I encourage you to have a plan before you arrive and decide how long you’re going to stay. Have a family discussion where everyone agrees to the plan, which helps each family member feel their needs are important and they’ve been heard. Next, let the host/hostess know ahead of time that you’ll be leaving at a certain time. There’s no need to explain why. Once you’re at the function, if someone wants to stay longer, you can certainly have a quiet moment away from the fray and decide together if an extension of time is acceptable to everyone. Doing this really reduces the possibilities of any drama or confrontation.
3. Take time for you. I know. I’m kind of a broken record on this, and I’m ok with that. This is your holiday time, too. Decide how you want to spend it – and own that – no apologies. You always make everyone else’s holiday so special and share so much love, just make sure you are being a sponge and absorbing all the love that is coming to you.
One of the best gifts I could receive is knowing you’ve taken care of yourself and made sure your holiday was just as special as you are.
So let me know how you’ll be taking care of yourself for the next week. Be specific.
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I am sending you all kinds of love and hugs and my best wishes for a happy and safe holiday.
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