Lucky 13 Studios / Joseph Dunphy 4 years ago . A few points, before we get started. 1. This is the time to claim my authority, I suppose. As any honest person who has ever subscribed to one of my flickrgroups will tell you, I tend to run a fairly mellow show, but "mellow" and "low key" are not synonymous with "weak". I am quite familiar with the practice of cultivating a lack of self-control in order to get what one wants - winning through intimidation - and have seen that game played in a variety of forms. Sometimes I've met the openly belligerent frat boy who never seems to feel drunk enough, and sometimes the "sensitive soul" who is so "offended" whenever somebody dares to disagree with him in public, that his rant will never cease until he gets his way. Either way, no matter how he plays the game, he soon learns that I'm not a good person to play that game with, as some will note with dismay and others with relief. If you make a scene or - and as far as I'm concerned, this is just as bad - act to enable somebody who is making a scene, you should expect to be ejected. Having shown courtesy - not to be mistaken with submissiveness - I expect to be shown courtesy in return. If you are acting in an unjustifiably belligerent manner with me or one of my guests, you are not being courteous, even if you have decided that courtesy needs to be redefined for a new age. One might be amazed to discover how very many people will do just that. .