One of the biggest lessons I have learned in over ten years of practicing divorce law is that I do not want to be divorced. Divorce will make you sad, lonely, poor, anxious, and it will rob you of the finite time that your children will be children. Few things in this life are as wasteful as divorce. Divorce is a tool used to devour your soul. Divorces are extreme misuses of energy and resources. There are no winners in divorce- only losers. Let me say that again. It does not matter how smart or crafty I may be because there are no winners in divorce- only losers.