Holidays can be the roughest waters we sail after a loss. Reminding yourself that this year will be different serves as validation and acceptance of your own feelings. I suggest planning in advance the days you anticipate being harder than others and have activities scheduled for that day. Don’t over do it and remember to cut yourself some slack this year. Let someone else bake and send the holiday cards while you pick up that book you have been wanting to read. Allow yourself to feel a realm of emotions and incorporate the loved one by adding a candle at the table or hanging a special ornament in their memory.