The things that get most of us stuck aren't crazy, shocking things - they're the things that make us the most comfortable. Our easy buttons...When you don't know how to bridge the gap between what you want and where you're at, it's easy to get stuck. And when those big, bad things in life happen that you can't control, it's even easier to get stuck. To get discouraged.
I managed to get 6000lbs worth of stuck. and I was one of those people that thought I almost had it all... other people told me they thought I had It all. I had it all figured out - the only the thing I needed to lose was 5-10lbs and the only thing I needed to find was a man and I was done. But if all of that was really true, I wouldn't of collected a closet the size of an African forest elephant, or 3 longhorns, or 2 Toyota corollas, you get the picture...
It's literally and figuratively impossible to have room for new opportunities in your life, if your heart is chasing someone that is unavailable, if your head is full of what iFs, if your social calendar and your credit cards are maxed out, or even, if your closet is full. But history is destined to repeat itself if you don't get down to why you found yourself there. That's a part of the process. Another part of it is letting go.
So, I let go of 4000lbs of stuff, and I made room to figure out that fear is mostly in your head. The things I want in life aren't going to kill me. I mean, there are Some things will kill me - but you know what I mean. I found out that dealing with hurt, loss, grief, you deal with things moment by moment. You don't have to panic. You don't have to run. You don't have eat a cupcake or buy a new sweater.
And the biggest aha moment Getting stuck and getting then unstuck - are both choices. You can choose to keep going in the opposite direction of where you want because it feels safer. You can sit there and wait for life to change...I can tell you that neither of those paths worked for me. Or you can choose to own up to why you're where you are at and what you are doing, you can choose to figure out what you really want, and you can choose to make a plan to go after it.
It's up to you.
What do you choose?
Join us on August 19th at the Smith Center in Las Vegas for the Unstuck Happiness Conference.