A parent's dementia and attendant short-term memory loss can be heartbreaking. It is common for children to have feelings of loss and grief as they see their family life changed by Alzheimer's. Children may go through the grieving process while their parent is alive - a process that may be hard to describe to those who have not encountered it themselves.
I'm not an expert on Alzheimer's, dementia or grief. That said, I've accumulated a good deal of experience over the course of my career as a trust litigation attorney in watching how children interact with a parent suffering increasing cognitive impairment. So here are some of my thoughts.
Frustration is natural. While natural it is of little help to angrily remind a parent "Mom, I've told you that before!" Reminders to people who can't recall a minute old conversation get the same treatment as the conversation - they're instantly forgotten.
When I see these parent-child interactions with clients or prospective clients I strongly urge the child or caregiver to seek out information on Alzheimer's or dementia. There are outstanding organizations that provide this information and help for caregivers and families of patients.
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