Patients who come to us are not beginners: they have already been through IVF again and again. And it is always very important for every woman to understand that she has done everything possible to achieve live birth with her own eggs before she gives an even little thought to egg donation.
➡️ Own egg or donor egg?
When patients come to us, we start with a thorough analysis of their medical history. And if there is something that you can still do with your own eggs, we will grab this opportunity. Sometimes we even experience situations when patients come to us for egg donation or embryo adoption, but we see, wait – there is an opportunity! And here we can even offer our patients a baby guarantee in a so-called “Combined programme” which means that yes, it is possible for you to achieve live birth with your own eggs, take this opportunity.
➡️ Take your time to learn about egg donation!
Many patients come to us because they are looking for an egg donor.
And I can imagine how it happens: you have been to your doctor, your doctor said that your eggs do not work anymore and that you need an egg donor, so you get this medical advice literally and you start googling for an egg donor, you land at your Database page and here you are, welcome!
But wait a second. Will you recognize any thoughts that I will mention now?
Many women think about their bond to the child and the future:
- Will I love the child?
- Will the child love me?
- Would this all be as natural and normal as it would have been if it was my own egg?
- How should I tell the child?
- How should I tell my friends?
Are you thinking about this? Then wait, it is too early to start with choosing an egg donor.
➡️ Learning more about egg donation will normalize your feelings.
For you and women like you we have set up an educational package which is an introduction into this process. This process is very new for you. And, of course, you have not learnt anything about this in school; you couldn’t ask your parents how it was with egg donation for them. So you should get this information from reliable sources.
➡️ Who can provide you with reliable information about egg donation?
1️⃣ Step one: Speak to our psychologist specialized on fertility
Have a consultation with one of our brilliant psychologists about all the natural questions which are most frequently asked. You experience these questions for the first time in your life but there are years of literature from the best professionals about families created through egg donation. So why not get this information from the first hands – from professionals?
2️⃣ Step two: Speak to a former patient who has children after egg donation.
You need to know how it was, you need to meet someone who has been through this and you need to know how it will be afterwards. We offer you a unique opportunity of meeting face-to-face with our former patients who have children through egg donation to see how normal it will be.
3️⃣ Step three: Speak to a former egg donor: why do they donate eggs?
Have you wondered who are these women who donate their eggs?
So why not meeting one of our egg donors behind the Database and finding out what values and motives have led her to become an egg donor?
➡️ Knowledge will help you accept your emotions and focus on the future.
And after you have collected this information, maybe you will know exactly what you are looking for and then you will feel that this idea of egg donation is good enough for you.
And when you feel that you know which criteria are important for you in your egg donor choice, when you feel that this child will be yours and entirely yours, when, congratulations, you are ready to choose your egg donor and we will be delighted to help you with this.
➡️ Medication and travel are only 10% of your egg donation process
In my seminars patients very often ask: “Please tell me more how to plan treatment and how to travel”. And I usually say: “This is only 10% of work – the real IVF and embryo transfer. But 90% of work that we are doing is to give you proper information and to normalize your situation. So we think that we should better make three steps back to make four steps forward. You shouldn’t rush with practicalities when you are thinking about fundamental emotional and ethical questions”.
We can guide you through this process.
