Listening to and believing a woman is a good thing for both of you. You’ll get a more satisfying, respectful relationship and she’ll feel understood and respected. That’s a win/win.
You’ll learn how women can be hurt by men’s behaviour, and how they can feel unsafe in ways you maybe haven’t thought about, like walking home at night or working with a colleague who makes sexual comments. Try to feel how it is for her – don’t make it about you.
Don’t judge, or jump in with your answers. You can try just repeating back what she’s said in your own words, then ask her if there’s anything she wants to do. You don’t need to explain that not all men are bad – she knows.
Check out these for more info: Respectful Relationship Toolbox and Respectful Sexual Relationships Toolbox.