Choose the media that’ll make you a better guy. Whatever you’re watching, think about how many putdowns of women you’ve heard, or how many guys you’ve seen ‘manning up’ in the last week. All those images reinforce the idea that men should be in charge, tough and aggressive – and win the trophy girl.
Sure, they’re just stories, but they will affect your attitude towards women, and can make men’s violence against women seem more normal.
Porn – it’s just not real
Porn shows women only as sex objects and that men have uncontrollable desires. That’s just not reality. Porn is missing the behaviour that makes sex satisfying, meaningful and respectful, like being safe, asking for and giving consent and being respectful, caring or loving.
Use your ‘crap-detector’ for everything you watch. Check yourself – how’s all that media affecting your thoughts about women and how you treat them? Make a stand, treat women with respect, and deliberately choose to only watch media that reflects your values.
Check out the ‘Power of Behaviour’ section of the Respectful Relationships Toolbox for more info.