Nine of us, aged 11 to 22, worked on Lonely Not Alone with Effervescent: a design agency committed to creating large scale positive change.
We wanted to start to break down the stigma and shame which comes with being lonely when you are a child or young person. Loneliness was something we all experienced.
Our individual loneliness stories were all different – some of us have very difficult home lives, some of us have moved cities or countries to places where everyone else already has friendship groups, some of us look really different to everyone else, and some us aren’t sure why we don’t fit in, but we just haven’t found our people.
When we thought about loneliness: What we are shared was:
We thought it was our fault
We thought it would probably last forever
We put on a brave face and pretended it didn’t hurt
We looked at the floor so we didn’t catch people’s eyes and feel worse
There are thousands of us going through this:
We are lonely, but not alone
By Through making this campaign together, we’ have all started to share our experiences, and that’s helped us feel so much better about what we’ have gone through. It hasn’t taken all the pain away, but we have realised that we are all really great people: our loneliness has been caused by life and fate rather than because we don’t deserve good friends.
We hope that this campaign gives you some of that reassurance, too.