Dragana Loelke (Gaga to her friends) a physician living currently in Rome, notes, “Journalists are generally the only ones who talk about the conflict. They inevitably ask us if we are Serbian, Croat, or Muslim” (Loelke, audio interview, 2012). She says, there is an expectation that individuals can speak for the whole.
Loelke describes the result of war as a disruptive force resulting in a situation where friendships and familial relationships where "exploded" across the globe (2012).
We return almost yearly to visit family. My parents are gone now, but we still return to visit. Sarajevo has become a city of old people waiting for younger family to return in the summer. It is stuck with no new ideas or energy to move forward from a sad past. I rarely see my friends on these trips. We keep in touch through email, Facebook and Skype, and we all return to visit our aging family, but our schedules do not coincide. (2012)
The inability to actually see friends upon her return reminds her of one of the most regrettable outcomes of the war. Relationships she took for granted now only survive through technology.