I don’t think I’ve met anybody who thrived on being hated or disliked.
It’s important to know that we are loved, liked and accepted isn’t it?
So naturally when it comes to our online life we yearn for the same thing, love and acceptance.
When we make content or we share something online, what are we trying to achieve?
Are we looking to strike up an online conversation? Are we trying to get likes, clicks and views, or are we looking for some attention?
Some of us might get a bit nervous when we post something, and ask questions like;
“Will anyone like this?”
“Will people get it?”
We wait to be judged by the people, the online community that is the global village.
But how important is this?
Do we feel neglected and unloved when no-one likes or comments on our posts?
Sometimes we get a few plays and re-tweets, a couple of likes and we feel loved and liked.
But is this a real kind of love?
I find society and cultures fascinating, especially when it comes to our online selves and how we interact with others.
Recently I caught up with a couple of young go-getters who use social media every day.
Zac is a musician and media artist, while Stef is a photographer and is moving towards being a photojournalist.
It was interesting to hear their thoughts about social media and the above is a summary of our chat.
I’m old enough to remember a time when there was no internet and no mobile phones.
I can’t say if those days are better or worse than today?
The list of pros and cons are way to big to summarise, however I have to say there are certainly a lot more distractions today.
For example Stef while working on the computer, can have up to 16 different pages and panels open at the one time.
“I’ll be sitting on my computer at 3 o’clock in the morning, writing an article, doing an assignment while editing photos, browsing the web, watching a short film and talking to a friend all at the same time and your mind convinces you that you’re going to get a lot done. But 5 o'clock comes along and you realise you’ve done absolutely nothing!”
Stef says, “It’s very hard to close that FB tab, close that you tube channel that keeps taking you to more ridiculous videos, and just focus on what you need to do. Or if you want to appreciate a piece of art that you are viewing it’s very hard to stop everything else and appreciate it.”
Do all these distractions take away from the stories and content we view?
Do the amount of views and likes on something determine whether we watch it?
For Zac it's important to him on how many likes and views are on a piece of content, but agrees it is harder to break through and get your work seen by the masses.
“You share content on Twitter and FB and you hope someone else will look at it and the cycle keeps going and where it starts and stops is with us, and I guess it will just keep going like that till something better comes along.”
The Beatles said it, all we need is love, but the means in which we receive that love, or how genuine that love actually is, is what makes social media complex but interesting.
That fundamental element of wanting to be accepted, yearning to be acknowledged by others will always be fundamental to being human, but is this the same for our online lives?