1. Alicia escaped from her parents’ penthouse where she was abused. She emerged with powerful lessons for anyone who was treated unfairly when a child.

    In her words: And I remember when they were hitting me my Dad kept saying, "Love, what do you know about love, you think you know about love, you don't know nothing about love!" - I remember he kept saying that when he was hitting me.

    They swung me toward the direction of the open window on the 13th floor. And they missed. Thank goodness, they missed. And I hit the wall, and I slid down, and I was a complete bawling mess.

    It was just hangers, belts, kicking, punching, hair torn out, you know, feet on your face, like, spitting on you, like... it was pretty brutal. To add to that, wanting to stab me with a knife. I wrote in my journal that "I heart - this guy's name, Jimmy, whatever, I heart so-and-so." That's all. And I led the journal open by accident, I didn't think it was a big deal. I didn't even know what "I heart someone" meant, I mean, I hought it was cute, I saw it in a movie. And my Mom saw that and she said, "oh, you love someone? You have a boyfriend or something?" My dad hit me, and then when he was done, and then when he was done he threw me to my mom, and my mom hit me, when she was done threw me to my dad, and my dad hit me. And collectively they picked up my arms and my hands and legs and swung - tried to swing me out. Swung me toward the direction of the open windows.

    But one of my aunts, she saved me, she rescued me, because she heard some stuff about what was going on, and she realized how cruel what was happening, because I was being locked up in my bedroom, and it had been three months, and she hadn't heard anything about me. I was locked up in my bedroom, and I never knew - it was solitary confinement in a sense - I never knew when they were gonna come in and beat me up. It was random.

    I snuck out one day. It was scary, sneaking out like that. I ran out, and I called her with the phone downstairs, and she picked up. Immediately she said, "are you okay?" and I said "No, I'm not okay, help me."

    If you grow up in an environment where you're treated unkindly for a very long period of time and that is your, that is your identity. Where I want to say like your... where your worth gets beaten out of you. So I think a lot of girls who went through what I went through, I feel like the aftermath of it is very crucial, because I didn't have self-care. I didn't know what it meant to have boundaries. I didn't know what it meant to expect a standard of care from other people. Survivors like me tend to self-destruct. Some people go into drugs, some people - just you know, plunge yourself into other things. Relationships, sex. I mean, basically it's a form of escapism, because I mean you gotta go somewhere, you gotta run somewhere, because they don't know that they should expect a certain standard of care from others. They're like a castle without walls.

    Go find out how much you're worth, that you're valuable, that inherently you have dignity and you deserve a certain standard of care from others. In the sense that, "I'm a person who needs love, needs to be known, wants to know others and be known, wants to love others and be loved, wants to understand and be understood." There is no dead-end. There is always, always help, so keep pushing forward and surround yourself with loving people. I made it through. And now I live a life of abundance and contentment and joy, and I go through hard stuff too. But I live a life of gratitude, contentment, and joy.

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  2. Ira Israel discovered a deep truth about fate and destiny after a car accident that almost ended his life.
    In Ira's words: "walking through the fire means embracing every aspect of your life. And until you do that, you're creating your own suffering. Pain does not cause suffering. It's our intolerance of pain that causes suffering."

    ..."When His Holiness is asked 'who's your greatest teacher?' Everyone expects him to say, The Buddha, and what does he say? The Chinese, who killed 2 million of his people, that's his greatest teacher. So for me, radical acceptance is understanding that everything that happens is for your growth, for your benefit."

    "...I'm not a religious person at all, I don't proselytize, I don't consider myself a buddhist, I do not consider myself Jewish, but I need to believe that the things that - the suffering, and the beauty and everything in the world is for a reason. I don't want to live in a Universe that doesn't inherently have some meaning."

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  4. Mountaineer Dominic Gill rode a two-seater bicycle from Alaska to the end of South America. He invited strangers to ride with him.

    As he embarked on his 9,000-mile bike journey he was fiercely self-reliant. What he discovered along the way altered his entire way of perceiving others.

    In his words: So when I was 26 I bought a tandem and a camera with the idea of creating my first adventure film documentary. So my idea was to start in Alaska, and cycle on this tandem bicycle all the way down to the tip of Argentina, so the length of both continents, and invite random strangers to get on the backseat and pedal with me and share their stories, share the journey. After 4 days traveling on the bicycle on my own not really seeing anyone, I was just south of first mountain range, the Brooks range. I realized that all my fierce wilderness independence was kind of evaporating very, very quickly. And I crave company to sit down with, share a beer, share conversation - nothing complex, just company. And at about that time, I did meet my first companion to ride on the bike.

    So one of the most basic things I learned from this first companion, Charlie, was sharing stories, or to be, I guess really - to have a dependency on someone is a lovely thing. Bonds grow so much more if you are vulnerable and need the help of someone else. But as I ventured further and further south, picking up and dropping off all sorts of different people... from schoolkids to families that put me up, having met me on the side of the road, and living a few miles down the road, they’d decide to take me in, and after a night, one of the members of the family would think that the trip sounded so fun, that why the hell wouldn’t they take a day or two to accompany me and be part of it. People want I think inherently to be part of something.

    I go further and further down, and more and more different types of people would join me. South of the Mexican border people would join me just to get to the next village, instead of riding a horse or paying money to go in a bus or whatever. So month by month - and it took two years and 2 months to get to Southern Patagonia, to the end of the trip… and I arrived in the dead of winter, exhausted. But the one thing that I had learned above all is, rather than do what we’re kind of encouraged to do everyday by society, which is treat strangers with distrust, and if in doubt, “shut up and keep walking,” kind of attitude - I learned that it actually pays to be the opposite. Broadly speaking, if you open yourself up to every single person you come across, by law of averages, you will come out on top. It will be more, significantly more than 50 percent positive. It sounds cliche, but I think it would be a very easy thing to start with, to look into peoples’ eyes when you are walking down the street. Because it’s very well saying that you have a smile on your face, but if you’re looking at the curb or looking away from people, you’re not making a connection. But if you look into peoples’ eyes and smile - you know it’s written everyone that your smile can make a difference in someone’s day, but it’s true. And more importantly by smiling at someone else you can gain a great deal. It could lead to you helping them or vice versa. And I guess that’s what makes the world go ‘round. So you don’t have to travel anywhere particularly - it literally is on the street outside.

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  5. Psychologist Arthur Kovacs has a startling message for anyone who has ever tried to win at the game of love. Hint: everything you think you know is wrong.

    In his words: "The only way I know of to protect oneself from being hurt is to live a hermit-like existence. And I want to quote the French poet Rimbaud, from the 18th century. I love some line of his. He said, "When I die, I would like my body to be so covered with the scars of having tried to love to love as to make an autopsy impossible." And we are increasingly raising a generation of people who want to do just the opposite, they do not want to be marked by anything. So they avoid realness with each other, they avoid the cauldron of interaction with another human life.

    Most of the tactics we're taught to manage relationship are stupid, they are not tactics for managing relationships, they are tactics that we hope will take the risk out of being in relationships, and that's quite a different thing. How can I meet somebody and not get hurt by it, or optimize the fact that it's gonna be radiant and never terrible? Those are false goals to proceed. I think any of us has to show up, and I try to teach my clients, and I've tried to live this way myself - the best way to manage a relationship is simply to keep pouring back into that relationship whatever gets stirred in you by brushing up agains the other. If you feel awkward, frightened, distressed by what's going on, talk about that. If you feel passionate and drawn to the person, then talk about that Just keep telling them what you're experiencing as you're with them."

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