http://www.thecommonthreadgroup.com In this video, Jerry Gladstone offers tips on overcoming self-sabotage from well-known celebrities. Jerry Gladstone, founder of The Common Thread Success Academy and author of The Common Thread of Overcoming Adversity and Living Your Dreams, is considered an expert in helping people overcome adversity, building self-worth and is described by some as “America’s Master Motivator.” Jerry with certification form The International Coach Federation has used his abilities as a business consultant, author, motivational speaker, and success and life coach to enhance the lives of others. The Common Thread of Overcoming Adversity and Living Your Dreams shares insights and wisdom from Academy Award and Grammy Winners, Super Bowl and World Series Champions, Rock & Roll Hall of Fame Legends, Best-selling Authors and Billionaires, Olympians, Boxing and UFC World Champions. Master new skills and habits; understand what makes them tick and how you can use this book to reach great heights of success while maximizing your full potential. Find out how to defeat obstacles and overcome challenges to live your personal dreams of achievement.+ More details
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Visit http://DrKenChristian.com/BreakThrough to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All. High Performance: Making Good on Possibilities You need to do something. You need to become like a heat seeking missile for possibilities. You need to look for what you could do that’s new, that stretches your boundaries, that takes you to new places, because if you’re not looking for possibilities, your usual mindset has blinders on, and it’s going to keep guiding you toward the same thing. You’re going to keep sniffing for the same flowers. You’re going to be looking for the same dill weed. You’ve got to open yourself up to more possibilities, and so the way to do that is to give yourself a simple instruction. All you have to do in the morning is say, today, all day long, I’m looking for possibilities. I always look for possibilities, and I find them when I do. That little, tiny statement that I just made, there is so much research that shows that an instruction that simple repeated in the morning and then said, maybe, again at night, simple instruction, it’s amazing how strongly you follow that, especially if you say, and I always. If you say, and I always, to anything, you are going to do it more. You really are. And the research is solid on this. It’s amazing. It’s so ludicrously simple, and it’s so powerful. It opens doors because you have a bazillion possibilities in a day, and you can’t and don’t want to take all of them in, but looking for possibilities that extend your reach or your power or your ability to make a difference in the world, to touch people’s lives, to touch your family life, your family’s lives, and to extend your reach and your power, and even your income. Those are all positive goals for you to have. If you’re not looking, you won’t see. Look. Do it. Watch the difference it makes. It’s incredibly powerful, uncannily powerful.+ More details
Visit http://DrKenChristian.com/BreakThrough to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All. Advanced Distinctions For Advanced Achievers: Motivation: A Threadbare Concept The topic of motivation has been covered extensively, in psychological and in popular culture. People talk about the need to be motivated, and when they talk about the need to be motivated, they’re really saying, I’d like to be at some kind of situation that enthused them, that got their enthusiasm level up. And that kind of enthusiasm can come from going to a football rally, going to a baseball game, whatever it is. It’s a kind of worked up emotional state that doesn’t necessarily either last or actually raise your level of performance. People do like emotional highs. The trouble is emotional highs do not develop skills, necessarily, at all. It’s not like we’re inert and so something has to give us motive force. We’re active. We’re conceptual. We’re working at our worlds. We have to cramp that down and fit ourselves into, like, a cubby and be in our little enclave and not think boldly and not think big ideas because we’re a part of a larger organization. Then maybe people do need some kind of pumping up, but really, that kind of output of emotion is something people cling to or attempt to cling to for days afterwards, and there’s a kind of natural shelf life of dissipation of any exciting moment that you’ve been at with a motivational speaker. Now, do not get me wrong. I have heard Zig Ziglar. I have heard an amazing number of motivational speakers. I recently heard Les Brown, and I wouldn’t trade away that experience for any kind of gummy bears or anything else I have. I mean, that guy rocks his world, and listening to the way he puts together ideas and the memorable phrases that remind in your mind--remain in your mind, it’s awesome! That is brilliance, and to be around brilliance is a beautiful thing. You can be around brilliance that a musician has, a poet, somebody who reads well, a kind of poetry that they’ve written or spoken word. These are things that we seek, and I believe that motivational speakers who are excellent and have honed their craft are amazing. And I am not knocking them. But the idea that you’re going to bring in somebody to pump up your staff and that that’s going to last? I’m talking about these guys are artists, the Zig Ziglars, the Les Browns, the amazing speakers that blow your mind, and it’s great to be around the performance, and you’re just mind blown. You want to hear it again and again because it’s so well done. I think we’re attached to the art of it and the brilliance of it more than it makes a lasting effect on our motivation, but there are thoughts and phrases that do stick with you, and that’s not nothing. They’re amazing, and they’re worthwhile. But motivation is one of those topics that can mean a lot of things, and therefore it tends to lose its precision. I believe, clearly, that intrinsic motivation, that is knowing that what you’re doing is worthy and of value, in and of itself, not jus that you’re trying to motivate yourself to do this project that you don’t really think is important, but you’ve got to get it out. You get what I mean? It’s different. So I want you to be in search of inspiration, in search of beauty, in search of things that are aesthetic, in search of lovely things that you can develop and be a part of and sign off on because you put your best into it. That’s when things get really alive, and you don’t have to get motivated when you’re on a mission. You don’t have to get motivated that way when what you’re doing naturally inspires you. Every day you go in, you’re getting to do one more leg of an important project for you. That’s the way to be alive, and that’s the source of something that has a lot of power, and there’s research to show that inspiration has a huge effect on what we’re capable of doing. Go out and achieve more with a bit of inspiration, and you’ll be naturally motivated.+ More details
Visit http://DrKenChristian.com/BreakThrough to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All. Hesitation and Procrastination: The Lethal Cost of Delay There’s an old saying. He who hesitates is lost. She who hesitates is lost, too. There is no good thing that comes out of hesitation, postponement, delay. These are habits that erode your capacity to be present and to make decisions and take responsibility for them. You don’t need more time most of the time. You do not need to tell yourself you’ve got to mull something and sit on it. If it feels like a good decision, here’s what research shows. You are better off taking action and deciding now. They did an experiment that was as follows. They brought in people, and they gave them a choice to make under two conditions. The first condition was they got six choices to choose from because people like, or so they presume, lots of opportunities to choose. They like many choices. They don’t want to be forced and coerced to choose just between a couple of things, and everybody kind of agrees there’s a general idea that they ought to have time to think it over and mull it and not make some quick decision. So they brought people in, and they gave them six choices, and they gave them a full week to decide. Then they brought in another group of people, and they told them, look, you get two choices, and you’ve got to decide now what you want. Then what they did was do a follow-up with both groups, and they had a measure of finding out how much they enjoyed the choice they made. To a percent, the people who had to decide then and there and had to decide between just two choices liked their decision. They were much more satisfied with it. The people who had six choices and five days or a week to decide, they more or less hated their decision. It’s like the process of weighing that many things sort of wore them down because it kind of gets complicated, and also they were looking into the bad side of everything. Don’t get caught in delaying and hesitating on things that you know you can do. All you’re doing is giving yourself grief, and you’re delaying and postponing, which is a bad habit. If there’s an action to take, take it. People who are successful are quick responders and early adopters. They decide now, and they go for it. They hear it. They know it. And they act. You need to practice that. You need to practice those things that successful people do because it’s going to give you a leg up on all of this hesitation, delay, and postponement. This is why stuff accumulates around you and bears in on you, and why you’re behind because you think you need time to do things you don’t need any time for at all. In fact, you’re going to subtract from the effect. So get this right. Start making decisions in the moment and on the fly, and sure. You’re going to be a little bit scared. You’re going to think, well, the convention is, and I’ve always done it this way, and oh, I’m that kind of person. I always sleep on it. Research shows that doesn’t add anything. In fact, it subtracts. It actually adds grief and subtracts from your pleasure. Bear this in mind, the next time you’ve got to do something, don’t postpone. Don’t delay. Act.+ More details
Visit http://DrKenChristian.com/BreakThrough to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All. Conquering Fears That Block Success: Fear of Failure Nearly everybody will tell you that they’ve experienced fear of failure. Fear of failure is out there because failure is out there itself, but get over the fear. Here’s the deal. If you’re going somewhere, if you’re learning new things, if you’re experimenting with new things, if you’re in the battle to take your skills and your message to a new level, if you’re working to really say something new, you’re going to fail at different steps. Failing is proof that you’re trying something new. The best gauge of you being at the cutting edge of your craft is that you’re pushing past what’s given knowledge, what’s accepted, what’s the conventional way that things are done, and you’re exploring beyond where other people dared go. That means you’re going to have a steady diet of some kind of failure mixed with amazing breakthroughs in success. But nothing new is created without prototypes. Prototypes, if it’s an invention, prototypes are a series of failed efforts. Each one builds for more success for the next one. It’s like, how do you learn to create something? You ramp it up with the knowledge you have as best as it is, and you find out what fails, what doesn’t do what you were expecting or wanting. You correct that, and you maybe innovate something new that you hadn’t even though of because you think about it, and your creativity kicks in and you see yet another whole way to go. That process is so endemic to people who are at the edge, that they welcome the failures. They do things to expect and eliminate causes of failure. Engineers do this all the time, but even in your creative work, even in dance, even in music, you experiment at the edge and you go, that one didn’t do it. I got somewhere new. I never thought that I could do that. So, whether your work is creative work or innovative work in science or in business, or in your particular entrepreneurial effort, sure you have to mitigate your risk and not be crazy with the risks of investing money that you, you know, on the com, but I’ve never known an entrepreneur that wasn’t at the edge of monetary failure at some point in the process that led to the breakthrough. So, be willing to overcome the fear of failure because if you avoid fear of failure, you need to get used to failure and now. You need to get used to failure enough because you’re out at the edge that you don’t any longer fear it. You see it as a part of the processes, how you move forward. There’s no better way that I know to conquer fear of failure than to put yourself at the edge of failure because you’re trying something new. That’s what you’re learning. To learn to speak a foreign language is to make mistakes until you smooth out what you’re doing. All of life is about making mistakes and learning from them, all of life. We were born knowing how to do almost nothing but suck. You may feel like that sucks, but it’s just a learning process. That’s all that it is. Don’t fear failure. You’re going to learn how to do it. Visit http://DrKenChristian.com/BreakThrough to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All.+ More details
Visit http://DrKenChristian.com/BreakThrough to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All. Achieving Success: Create Your Own Personal Reality You know we don’t learn reality because it’s just there and we suck it all up and we know what reality is. We’re always figuring it out. We’re trying to say, what happens when that tone of voice is used? Or what’s going on when my mom stomps her foot? Or what can I do or why can’t I play with this electrical cord? We put our reality together and the consequences for this is that we may shut down from conclusions we reached when we’re 18 months old, all kinds of possible pathways. I can remember that my sister told me once that I wasn’t supposed to move my arms so much when I walked. My sister was my older sister, I must not have been supposed to be—for years I didn’t move my arms very much when I talked, when I walked. Crazy. But there are all kinds of things like that, that get inserted, because we thought we drew a correct inference. We saw this, and that happened and we put two and two together and it wasn’t two and two at all. You have a bunch of limits that you’re carrying around like garbage because you collected all these mad scientist ideas but you weren’t very smart about how to put it all together. And you can put things together and they can hold for you, often enough that you’ll stay with them and you don’t even realize that it isn’t reality at all. You need to go in and start examining where you close things off because the number of things you open back up creates whole new realm of possibilities and it’s great to have guidance when you do that. I mean, that’s why therapists make money because it’s so valuable to have somebody help you know your misconceptions. And any good person, you would ever want to work with, and believe me, your progress goes faster when you work with somebody who is an expert, is going to help you unlock the secrets and find all the places you’ve been blocked because you created those blocks early on and they stuck, because they were never refuted. Get into a process where refuting the bogus ideas you have is going to open you up and make success come much more quickly. Believe me.+ More details
Visit http://DrKenChristian.com/BreakThrough to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All. Achieving Success: The Unlimited Self Hey! I want to talk to you about your self-concept. Your self-concept is something you put together over time, and, yes, you’ve got lots of things from people, comments about you and so on, but you need to know something. You have a set of ideas about who you are, and for you they’re like hard reality. In fact, your self-concept is so central to the way you organize your entire world, you hang onto it like mad. I mean, you feel like, okay, if there’s one thing I know, I know me. And yet, you may be leaving out all kinds of possible things about you that you could’ve taken notice of, but you haven’t. Did you ever have this experience where you got into a class with somebody, a particular professor or teacher, and they just looked at you a different way? It could be even a grade school teacher, but it was like they saw something about you that the other teachers hadn’t seen, and they kind of expected more of you, and maybe they waited a little longer to hear what your answer was, like they were really interested, and you went, oh. I mean, you didn’t necessarily say something out loud to yourself about what was going on, but pretty soon, you were kind of like, speaking up in class and saying more things. That’s what happens. There’s an interchange with you and other people, and you form a self-concept. And the good thing is that there is room for it to expand, and you can take more in and allow yourself to shift. But if anybody comes in and just says you’re not this or you’re not that, you hang onto your self-concept. You feel like they’re crazy. They don’t know. I know me. You know, like, one quadrillionth of you. You’re an energy system. You are beyond stardust. You’re amazing, and there’s so much to you that you don’t understand and don’t conceive of and can. I urge you to look at your self-concept and see what it contains because your self-concept, every time you say something that’s a self-description, I’m this kind of person, I’m that kind of person, when you say I’m this kind of person, a present tense statement of how you are, you are prescribing future behavior. You’re saying we’re-I’m committed to this. This is the position I take. This is me. You prescribe further behavior in that same direction. So if you say it about a negative characteristic, you just put in place a limit, and you just acted in a self-hypnotic way to strengthen that. You are doing self-hypnosis all the time when you talk to yourself or when you describe yourself to others, and that self-hypnosis strengthens and prescribes behavior. If somebody tells you, oh, you’re always this way, or you’re always that way, the characteristic, no matter what it was, was a prescription for future behavior. If it was a positive description of you, it was still a prescription for future behavior. If it was a negative description of you, you were saying inside yourself, yeah, that’s me. That’s what people expect. That’s what I do. That’s who I am. And you make a mistake between saying that’s what I do, and that’s who I am. I will tell you something you need to do about your self-descriptions. Listen carefully. Any self-description that’s positive, say it in the present tense. I am that way. Any goal that you have, say it in the present tense, I am that way, because your goal is not to try to become the fastest swimmer in the 2044 Olympics. Your goal is I am the fastest swimmer. That’s my goal. I’m the fastest swimmer. I’m the fastest swimmer. I’m the best artist. I’m the strongest man in the world. Your goal is I’m the strongest man in the world. Say it in the present tense. Any negative characteristic, do not prescribe it for the future by putting it in the present tense. Say up till now, I was this way, or I have been this way. Don’t own in your self-concept negative characteristics because when you say them in the present tense, you keep re-prescribing them. You’re giving yourself instructions for how to be. I want you to be all you can be, so I don’t want you to keep prescribing limits. Stop the negative prescriptions. Prescribe only positive things, new directions that you know you’re building toward.+ More details
Visit http://DrKenChristian.com/BreakThrough to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All. High Achievement: The Role of Inspiration Many things go into high achievement. I want to talk about the role of inspiration. Here’s the deal about inspiration. It works in a very intriguing and particular way. If you’ve got a goal and you are working toward it, when inspiration is introduced and that is something that deepens your emotional engagement, that gives you a sense that there’s a real importance, something about the thing you’re doing that is in and of itself of significance and importance, and you feel, then, the desire and upwelling within you to do everything you can on behalf of this project or this endpoint that you want to reach. That’s inspiration, and here’s what researchers have found. They’ve found that inspiration has a powerful effect on what people can achieve, both in teams and individually. And here’s the really most intriguing thing that all of this research has uncovered, and that is that inspiration helps anybody, but inspiration helps those who have skills like accomplished, well-developed skills in the area that they’re working, those people make the most of the inspiration. So it says that being inspired alone is good because inspiration is different from being emotionally high or emotionally excited. There’s something enduring about inspiration. If something inspires you, it continues to feed you each time you tune back into it. It’s not something that has to do with a particular situation or a particular emotional high or an event where there’s a lot of excitement. Most everybody likes to be at an event where there’s enthusiasm and excitement, and you even like going to a ballgame of some kind and yelling your head off when you know there’s no deep significance about it. You just like that process. Inspiration is different from that. It is like a deep sense of maybe even the magnificence of what you’re doing or its importance or what it can provide to humanity, or at least what it can do esthetically, like an expression of your skills and your creativity that arrives at being something, a finished product or a message you have to give to people or a book you’ve written or anything else where you pour yourself into it with a deep desire from the heart to make this thing see its final closure, to realize it in your lifetime or in the span of a project you’re working on. And it’s this thing about your having more skills. It means that you’ve got some stuff to work with. You’ve got knowledge. You’ve been trained. You’ve availed yourself of the resources and the mentoring that you can get, and you invest in yourself in that way. And when you then have this thing to do, that truly lends inspiration to your efforts, you’ll go much farther than the people who don’t have the tools. You’ve got to get tools, and then when you combine it with inspiration, that is a potent package that moves you forward, and this research is solid and dependable. This is the real stuff. So you can work with that and see if the projects you’re working on give you inspiration, and if they don’t, how can you add some aspect to it that brings more of that inspiration? You know, sometimes it’s context. If you feel like you’re down just doing this little part, sometimes it can feel like your efforts are small. They’re not that big, and you lose track of the larger sweep of what’s going on, but if you’re playing one part of something that’s great and it’s delivering something to people, a project, an end result that’s of great significance, go there and milk that for what it’s worth. Let yourself bask in the great thing that you with a team of other people are pulling off and doing. And you can even be inspired about a team you work on doing the best work that’s being done anywhere. That can be a source of inspiration. Right? So that’s another reason to reach and stretch and go for those larger goals, not to aim low because bigger goals carry with them more natural inspiration. Okay, put that inspiration together with solid skills, and you’ve got something really significant that’s going to move you ahead right away.+ More details
Visit http://DrKenChristian.com/BreakThrough to learn how to Breakthrough Your Achievement Barriers to finally Have It All. Transformational Change: Get Real, Get Ready, Achieve Your Goals Pt.1 There are magical ways and seeming shortcuts that have to do with expectancies as ways to get to new places in you, find new possibilities out and cash in on them. There are also ways to follow a pattern that’s very, very direct, and if you follow it, there are like 50 years of research demonstrating that it’s exactly how people make transformational changes, huge changes that stick, changes that last. That’s the thing everybody wants, and they’re possible. The formula for it involves four steps. I want to talk about two of them right now. They have to do with getting real and getting ready. If you’re going to launch a change effort, it’s important that you know that the first step is to get very real about where you are right now. You need to get real. You need to get devastatingly honest, except it’s not going to devastate you. You only fear that, but you have to get down and say, okay, what am I actually doing right now? And where am I now in relation to where I want to be? What’s the gap, and how can I cross that chasm? The way to do it is to honestly say, this is where I actually am, and I’m not going to get anywhere new unless I take action. So you get real about that. Then the next step is to get ready for the effort you’re going to make to move yourself, and this is cognitive, conscious stuff. This is you deciding. This is you preparing. This is you looking and seeing if there are classes in a calendar that you can take and signing up for them. This is doing prep work. This is doing honest, hard labor to get somewhere, and it pays off big. When you’ve taken that inventory inside about how you’re messing yourself up, what you’re telling yourself that’s wrong, and how you’re blocking yourself, how you’re limiting yourself without knowing it, how you’re maybe even sabotaging your opportunities, when you get really clear about that, then the next step is to prepare to get ready after getting real, and the readiness is setting in motion a lot of, like, research about, okay, what can I do? How can I shape this up? How can I shore up that weakness? How can I take care of this? How can I get good training here? Who’s somebody I want to work with? Because with good guidance, you will go faster, wherever it is. Wherever you want to go, you’ll go faster safely, because shortcuts kill you. You cannot take shortcuts and get where you want to go. There are hacks, there are ways to learn what you can do that’s a little different, but this is the direct approach, not the indirect approach, not the self-approach. This is like doing it boom, boom, boom, and those are the first two steps. Take those steps, and you’ll be ready for the next two steps, which will ground you in an entirely different way.+ More details
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